The power to move the world is in the subconscious mind. – William James, Philosopher & Psychologist
I chatted recently about unworthiness to one of my clients. This belief comes up a lot in my 1:1 Integral Eye Movement Therapy sessions.
As I was chatting to her about her own feelings in regards to this, it brought me back to a memory of my teens.
I was studying (or not) for my end of school exams. School had mostly been a fight for me, except in subjects such as English. I felt hemmed in and a lot of the time trapped. It had been chaos from the start.
The day came. I trotted off with my friends to get my slip of paper. Afterwards, celebrations or commiserations at a friends house.
I saw myself sat there, everyone else had been home first to give the news to their parents. I though, waited until someone went out for more supplies and asked them to drop the results off to my own parents.
Imagine being so young , your first step towards the adult world and you feel so shameful about yourself already, that you don’t want to share your experiences.
The truth underlying all of this - I held a belief that I was undeserving and unworthy of anything good.
Even at that age, in my heart and mind, I wasn’t good enough and this carried throughout most of my life. It was a living breathing entity living inside me at 16, but very likely a long time before that.
It led me to self-sabotage my study and many more things from then on. It caused me to strive constantly to be better, so I could rest in that space of being worthy and good enough. Finally.
It didn’t happen. The striving just led to chronic burnout and anxiety. I always felt like a failure even when I had success.
I finally sought help to unravel and uncover where this had been buried so deeply and to deal with how I’d learned to believe this.
When we hold these core beliefs it can effect the way we see the world and in turn the way we experience it.
From the moment I received my first IEMT session I began to feel more able to ask for the things I wanted in my life. And I started to sense that I could actually achieve and receive them.
I began to notice and learn what worthiness actually felt like and worked with the root cause of why I had always felt that way.
It was a different way of living and still is. I had to gently unlearn what I had felt and believed for so long.
It’s been a journey of exploration and self- discovery, since that time my confidence has been higher and I feel more able to expect the good things in life.
Our subconscious mind holds our experiences, concepts, insights, and perceptions long after our conscious mind has forgotten them. From here come the feelings and notions that rule our lives, behaviours, habits, decision-making, and mindset.
Through its mechanism of neurological functions, the brain takes responsibility for our emotions, good and bad. These include anger, happiness, grief, shock and so much more.
These interpretations give shape to the kind of behaviour we exhibit and influences whether we have positive thinking or limiting beliefs.
The work I do is to support my clients to do the same. To release and let go, to enable them to work through these patterns with awareness and understanding. I use different techniques to work with the body and bring it back into balance and flow. To help my clients to feel more resilient and make bolder steps in their lives.
“Integral Eye Movement Therapy (IEMT) is not just another therapeutic modality. It's a journey into the very fabric of our psyche. By observing and influencing eye movements, we can tap into the neural pathways that store our most profound emotions and experiences. This isn't merely about alleviating symptoms; it's about confronting the dragons of our past, understanding them, and integrating their lessons into our present.” - Association for IEMT Practitioners