Steady steps..
"Butterflies are beautiful, but the process of emerging from the chrysalis and spreading your wings can hurt like hell. But still, you will survive the transformation (over and over again) and you will fly. Remember this when it hurts the most. This is the metamorphosis, the going down to liquid and the rising again. It's no joke but damn, it's one hell of a journey" - Jeanette Le Blanc
Another layer has been peeling off me lately.
I sometimes wonder if there is any more to peel away.
Change can be exhilarating, challenging and even liberating, depending on our perspective and readiness to embrace it.
The changes in my life have been immense in recent years and they shook me emotionally and physically. But this time around I am taking steadier steps, accepting the change and asking for support where it’s needed.
Small changes lead to lasting breakthroughs.
My clients often come to me wanting change so badly and then we start the work and all the wobbles begin.
We don’t know who we are.
We want to go back, but we know we can’t.
We try to grip on, to anything at all that feels real and familiar.
The not knowing is the point of where we are building. We know we were unhappy and so even though it’s familiar, we are still close enough to smell the shit we are wanting to leave behind. The gripping is what makes the ride so much harder.
And here is the point of tension and of fear.
Here is where steady steps are the key, especially if you have tried to free yourself from the mire over and over again and failed. Or if past experiences are running your nervous system and therefore your life.
Small steady steps (titration) works towards building resilience by exposing us to small amounts of change and occasionally distress as we work through our process. This helps us to build up tolerance and avoid becoming overwhelmed by what is happening.
When we reach for growth in any area of our lives then we can be forced to release something. That could be emotionally, mentally or physically and this can be really scary. This is why many of my clients choose to work with me over longer periods of time, to allow for this space to change and evolve.
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” – Maya Angelou
For me, this time around, it feels like bottom of the barrel type change. I have been here so many times that this time I am ready to connect and go there quickly to come out of the shit, hopefully smelling of roses.
But it feels good to have the support I need and the prosperity to seek that support. It all helps.
If you are going through change…
Does it feel like you have ridden this rollercoaster before?
Are you screaming with excitement or fear?
Can you slow the ride down to make it easier to enjoy?