Getting Comfortable with Discomfort

The Key to Healing

Have you ever noticed how our natural instinct is to avoid discomfort?

Whether it's emotional pain, stress, or challenging situations, we're wired to seek comfort and safety.

I spent most of my life avoiding my emotions because it all felt too painful. Too hard to handle, so instead I spent my time "looking" like everything was fine - in fact I was emotionally dysregulated and it was causing me SO much harm.

So what if I told you that the path to true healing actually lies in learning to sit with the discomfort we try so hard to avoid?

What I learned was growth and comfort don't coexist. They can't. Every meaningful transformation in our lives comes from stepping into the unknown and embracing the unfamiliar.

When we consistently avoid discomfort, we unconsciously reinforce a limiting belief – that we can't handle challenging situations. Our brain, always seeking to protect us, creates a comfort zone that, while safe, often becomes a cage that prevents our growth.

The beautiful paradox? The more we practice sitting with discomfort, the more we realise we can handle it. Each time we face our challenges head-on instead of running away, we build resilience. We prove to ourselves that we're more capable than we imagined.

This is especially true when it comes to emotional healing. Science shows that unprocessed emotions don't just disappear – they stay trapped in our bodies, keeping our nervous system in a constant state of stress. By learning to feel and process these emotions, even when it's uncomfortable, we allow our bodies to shift from survival mode into a state where true healing can occur.

But how do we do that? Especially when sitting with the pain and discomfort has become our daily habit?

What I learned was the belief that I had to do it alone, without support was stopping me from moving through it, preventing me from true growth and the things I wanted to experience in my life.

The hyper-independence that I had learned at an early age was the defence that stopped anyone seeing my vulnerability. Working through this was THE most uncomfortable place I have ever been, but I allowed it.

Coming through another layer, life is becoming more peaceful, more in flow, more loving, gentler and easier.

Healing isn't about avoiding discomfort. It's about expanding your capacity to be present with it. It's about trusting yourself through the process and knowing that each moment you spend sitting with discomfort is actually creating more safety within your body.

I support women like me, women who have found sitting with the discomfort difficult but they know there is no other way. Often on the verge of another level of burnout or crisis or simply feeling over emotional and lost.

Using IEMT, SSP, Root Cause Practice and many other tools I support my clients to become more balanced, resilient and able to deal with life on their own terms.

Next time you feel the urge to run from discomfort, try this instead: Take a deep breath. Allow yourself to feel what you're feeling. Trust that you can handle it. Because you can, and you're stronger than you know.

Here's to your healing journey,

P.S. If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear your thoughts. How do you handle discomfort in your own healing journey?

Feel free to reply to this email and share your experience, or talk to me about working together.