“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” - C.G. Jung
I love this quote.
Over the past years but especially the last few months I have been living more this way. It's definitely the way I work with my clients.
I lived for many years with confusion and fear. My heart wanted me to live fully and my head wanted me to be safe. I was quashing my desire for living a life that was aligned with my true values.
My issues were created by two opposing principles within me. A need to live as I wished, according to my deepest purpose and the need to stay safe within the tribe. To be accepted and held within it.
Living from the heart taught me to slowly harmonise and integrate this opposition and as I worked with it, my two minds, my two worlds began to align.
We work with desires and our conditioning daily. We want to grow but we have underlying beliefs of being unworthy. We want money but we have always been taught that "it's the root of all evil." We want to be in a relationship but we also need our alone time. It's a balance and it takes some effort and some commitment.
We struggle to live from the heart because we are conditioned to go against what isn't logical. To strive for safety within the herd. We have been taught to go against our natural deep down longings for creativity, joy, growth and expansion.
To live more form the heart, to create from this place that is often seen as this pink soft spot inside of us is courageous. The pink fluffy hearts we see on greetings cards and teddy bears has not been my experience of heart energy at all.
The heart is a braver way to live than from the head. It's more creative, more receptive and absolutely fearless. It knows what it wants and it will always find a way.
But we deny it. We deny ourselves in the pursuit of acceptance, of not rocking the boat and all because deep down we want to be loved. How strange? That in the pursuit of this love we deny ourselves exactly that.
“Whatever is rejected from the self, appears in the world as an event.” - Carl Gustav Jung
By denying ourselves we create, as Jung puts it in the quote, an event. Something deeper wants to move us, shift us and shape us. If we ignore the call, it will eventually show us the way.
As I have said before, we are shaping a new reality. It's a powerful time. But it's also difficult. As any of us know changing the habits of a lifetime can take some time, care and attention. Some commitment to ourselves and to face some fears. To let go of all that feels steady and "normal" and to step into a world unknown.
I work constantly now with looking forward at what I want to create. I journal a lot and when I feel unsteady I return and return again to the practice of questions such as:
Who am I now?
Who am I becoming?
What do I want to create?
What would I like to leave behind?
In all aspects of my life. Career. Relationships. Home. And so on.
By returning and refining these elements it leaves no room for anything that isn't that. It's an energetic vision and imprint for my future. Of course it changes as I do, but all is in alignment with who I am in the present moment.
I invite you this week to work with the prompts. To ask for what you want and look at what you want to create.
It will tell you an awful lot about what is going on underneath the very surface of your being.
It will tell you what is truly in your heart.